Introspection quote by Yvette

Just because you come from a broken home doesn’t not mean you need to have or lead a broken life. – Yvette Hess, 2015

“have”- implies that you do not have to just exist in

and

“lead”- specifically referring one’s own behaviour

Have an interesting day!

Yvette

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The Poor People in my street: Living in the Western Cape, Southern Suburbs

I live in a non-white area. More specifically I live in a coloured area. Last time I did, was in 1993.

Was I nervous moving here? Yes. Very.
But for our current circumstances, we needed to had no choice. The house is the perfect size for us: huge. It’s also close to one of the top primary schools in the Western Cape Cayden attends.

I am not complaining. What I am saying is, I’m not used to this. I grew up in the Free State, where you knew your ‘place’ without necessarily being told it. Yet, growing up in a white area, albeit unwelcome, one is used to a better way of life. A life where, having a choice isn’t a luxury. Choices only those in the poorer, darker end of the race spectrum would need to make daily.

I have a lot of white friends. In fact, I grew up not having any other colour friends till varsity. And I’m talking real friends like best friends. I knew a number of black and coloured people at school. There were the odd Indian, but yeah, that was odd. I was the first person of colour in mt primary school, so I don’t blame myself to wanting to ‘stick to what I know’.

Long story short: I grew up white and dated black guys.

Forward to the present day, I had a baby out of wedlock (before my 21st birthday- a very non-white thing to do), I married a coloured guy had 2 surprise babies. I’d say typical coloured life story, so why would living in a typical area like this, make me uneasy?

Maybe it’s the loud noise. Oh my word, living on a main road, brings out the worst in people, especially men. Loud cars, loud personalities- drunken screams echo on the way lonely road at 3am- “I’m not going to get into the car, your poes man.” Apologies for the vulgar language, but that’s what I hear.

Maybe it’s the fact that the only recycling I see is, the filthy homeless guy pushing a stolen trolley filled to the top, and secured by the sides with empty “Double O” bottles. He’s going to make a quick buck. This particular guy I see often, carrying his load, bearing his burden, often in the way of cars passing by.

Maybe it’s the fact that I see Somalian guys, fatter than the trolley guys- operating and managing businesses on either side of the road. They ate this morning, and he didn’t. Clothed in white, and a taqiyah, he shouts on his cellphone while directing local black guys to offload cooldrink bottles into the shop.

Maybe it’s the look on the face of a lady that takes her walk to Shoprite every other day and tries to cover swollen thyroid with a blue floral scarf. It’s the size of a sweet melon. She can’t afford to get it removed- but I’m sure she’s waiting for a free surgery pass at the day hospital. She has no choice.

Maybe it’s that older boy whistling at a school girl with a short skirt that doesn’t feel right. The fact that her breasts have just ripened, that she blushes as he rhymes nonsense, that she thinks, “this could be the one”, just because he gave her attention.

Driving down this very long road, I see probably a hundred businesses, but all look like they were made just to supplement an income, not to change lives or change the world.

I didn’t see any sleek modern designs or catchy names. Okay, “Curl up and dye” is my favourite, for the wrong reason. It’s a hair salon. I didn’t see any Twitter of Facebook logos. I’m sure you would not want to instagram anything there.

Metal gates are rusted.

I see those deep set wrinkles in the women who are in the sun too long. They stand for extended periods to talk and smoke to exhale the frustration.
That’s it- I think I saw frustration and desperation in the eyes and fingerprints of the old man who signed to buy more debt. He promises that furniture store money he doesn’t have, in exchange for beautifying a house he doesn’t own. A house that won’t be resold for much of a profit anyway.

“This is what you can have”, is what I see when I drive down the road- this is what people can have, and it’s not much hey. People don’t even know what true wealth is, what “better” can mean for them, not only to buy goods, but to know they are entitled to better quality, and better treatment from one another.

There are no gangs here. So, I’m not afraid of that.

I’m scared that I am sucked into the portal where I won’t want more, where I’ll say, “oh they think they are better because they have more.” Because that isn’t true.

People who have more, do not think they are better, not necessarily. People who are used to having more, have more choices (on what to purchase), and thus eventually, have a choice to how they behave.

I started off with race, not to only get your attention, but for you to think about where the root of the problem could be.

It’s matter of choice and entitlement. And you can’t expect people to behave a certain way (the way you’d like), if they don’t have either of those: choices or entitlement.

I had a choice to be here. I know I am entitled to me; my family deserves it.

Take care,

Yvette

[New Post: Old Fave Poems: My Africanisms]

my Africanisms by Yvette Adams

Who are you to judge and define my Africanness?

My skin ranges in colour- light as day and dark as the night.

The texture of my hair has its own agenda- from bone straight to a curl that is so tight.

My heritage, so rich and full of colour.

Yet, so much shame to call you Africa, ‘my mother’.

For you see, mother, my brothers and sisters of this land do not see me as sibling.

Rather, I am to them a stranger, a nobody who cannot offer a thing.

If only, they could see that my soul bleeds to compensate for lack of my blackness and being judged on my whiteness.

 Do not forget me in your struggle, because my brother- it is our struggle.

 My identity calls for a revolution- but respect my history, my pain, my struggle to be seen, by you brother-as a proud African.

[New Poem]: I am the Hood

There’s no edge,
No cliff from where I can leap
Because I am free
You, my brother, took that jump for me.

Ancient history
Tells no lies- we are the future
My Hood, you cannot die.
You cannot die,
The San, the Khoi lay there,
Bleeding from their eyes.

They fought, they lived,
They ruled,
They led you, poor fool!
Your heritage yearns for more-
More than the ignorance of
Dying for your hood.

I’m the hood,
I’m the hood-rotten with worry
and pained of old laws passed.
I’m the hood- empowered with new life
Birth’d.
With new life lived!
With eyes bright, brown
And forgotten hurt.
The Khoi, the San
The forefathers-
A catharsis will us not part.

New Spotlight: Will the real Dalin Oliver please stand up?

Who is Dalin Oliver?

Dalin is the tall, light-skinned bald guy many of us see on campus. I actually see him quite often, on Jammie Stairs, and even in the library. He has one of those faces you just recognize and wonder to yourself, “Don’t I know this guy from somewhere?” Quite a few of you should know him outside of the concrete walls of UCT, on stage.

By day Dalin Oliver is a student, by night, he is ….. a stand-up comedian.

I can’t remember why Dalin and I exactly started communicating, but it was around April this year and I always wondered who he is /was and how the stand-up comedy thing was going. I stalked him on FB for a bit and saw that the man is actually quite busy. *impressed look on her face*
Now that I blog, I thought… Hey, let me holler at the bra (guy) and turn the spotlight on him. See pic below:

Dalin Oliver @ UCT

We decided to sit on Jammie plaza, forgetting that we both pretty well-known on campus. Throughout our interview we had some interruptions, which I welcomed of course. It made the whole conversation, that: a conversation. Chilled vibes. 🙂

Heads up: I recorded this interview but some of the writing may not be exact. In my defense, Dalin did say, “Yvette, write what you like”…….. *mini evil laugh*

Yvette: So Dalin,  tell us about you, your family, study-wise what do you do etc? Oh and is it ‘Olivier’ or ‘Oliver’? (Afrikaans vs. English version)

Dalin: It’s Oliver, the English version. 🙂 Born 20th January 1989, went to St. Anthony’s primary school in Heathfield. Very keen cricketer while growing up, it still is one of my biggest passions. High school: South Peninsula High and in grade 11 I changed to Wynberg Boys High.  I was a year too young for school, and I was always looking for an excuse to stay behind so I changed school and play more cricket. I went back to grade 10 and   for the first 6 months I was very intelligent, but then that faded out. It was cool because I got to play more cricket. He even played provincial and captain of various teams. *impressed face, again*

He goes on further to say: You know when you have this dream, “I want to be a professional cricketer” and the reality hits you. Anyway, then came to study, didn’t know what I wanted to study. My mommy applied for me. I ended up doing B. Social Science.

Turns out he wanted to be a high school Maths and History teacher.

“I love youngsters, I love educating…. I love those diamonds in the rough, those youngsters who don’t believe they have potential. It’s very idealistic but you gotta start somewhere”.

“I enjoy working with young people.” He coaches kids cricket too.

Last year he decided to do history honours because writing is another one of his passions. As he says in his best English academic accent this year was: “The best academic year of my life”. 🙂

On a side note, he mentions that he wants to do TV and radio. He says, he has been told he has a face for TV.

Dalin in his gold suit.

Yvette: Hobbies? I assume it will be the cricket thing?

Dalin: Yes, cricket is my life. It takes up all my time. That’s why I don’t go away on holiday…

Yvette: Why comedy?

Dalin: Ag, you know, I have always loved comedy man. I grew up watching stand-up and watching guys like Marc Lottering, Kurt Schoonraad, Stuart Taylor, Riaad Moosa. All the SA comics. I have been a big fan of all of them. #No favourites. With our diverse culture, each of them hits it from a different angle. And me being exposed to all those cultures, it’s difficult to say(who is his favourite). I do like the ‘out-there’ , quirky comics. Those who are weird about themselves, like Kurt and Nik Rabinowitz.

Get this, he (Dalin) never could actually tell a story. He was bad at it. Go figure.  He says himself, “a horrible storyteller”. He gained some confidence in public speaking when he took part, on the spur of the moment, in Goodhope FM’s Campus DJ search last year, and that boosted his confidence a little as he was received well by the audience. He then started to write his own material and tested it out on his friends. First attempt at this, he failed miserably, but he worked at it and got better. Obviously. He started gigging last year September. His parents were cool with it, and his mom asked, “Is there money in it?” LOL. My parents would’ve just TOLD me, “There is no money in it”.

Dalin and his crew… Jokes.

“As long as I have comedy, I’m happy”- Dalin Oliver

Yvette: Tell us more about your specific style of comedy.

Dalin: Difficult question to answer. I speak about things that are relevant to my life. I speak about how I see life as a kid, growing up in Retreat (Southern Suburbs); the culture I was exposed to and how I relate or don’t relate to it and how I see it as funny. I speak about my family etc. I also like to look at contemporary stuff , like technology and how things are changing. (Yes, he isn’t that old, but he says he looks at these changes generationally, based on his experiences). From there, errr, girls. Just my mishaps and weird incidences with them etc. (awkward LOL). Women and how I relate to them etc. I also do a bit of politics, not really, I just touch on it, from a warped angle. Life in general etc… Observational comedy to some it up. Intelligent 🙂 I try to keep it natural, try to make it mine. I want it to be Dalin, I’m very possessive over my material.

He has a close circle of friends, his crits, who he trusts for their opinions, other than that, he is not deterred by anybody’s opinion really.

Yvette: How often do you write material?

Dalin: Depends on varsity and stuff but what I noticed is, every October.

He explained how, by chance that his time of the year he writes his best stuff. So we wait for next year October for stuff to come. Bear in mind though, he does have a hidden stash of untested material… 🙂 So in conversation he may actually be testing out material and you won’t even know it…. Right, Dalin? 😉 “His advice: If you have a thought process, run with it.”

Yvette: Do you think you will ever experience ‘writers’ block’ and not generate income and have to beg for money?

Dalin: No, I will still have some of the old material in the bank 😉

Still Dalin

Yvette: Looking at yourself and then other more established comedians like Kurt Schoonraad and Marc Lottering, what do you think the role comedians play in South Africa? I’m sure you can relate this to your thesis you mentioned.

Dalin: I haven’t been doing it long enough to say I have a specific role but it’s very important to speak about the reality you come from. You shy away from these things to make it palatable. But comedy is medium in which you can make those unpalatable things, palatable. We can speak about what race is, we can speak about differences, but in a good way. You speak about your reality, and the audience will relate to you. And if it’s observational, then it’s your take on it. Start here: (He points to his heart #how deep). But you can’t only speak about that, you will sound too philosophical. You need to be funny too.

Yvette: If we look the race related issues and debates in our country do you think it is appropriate for comedians to continue this trend of making jokes about race etc? Will it not reinforce it?

Dalin: There is much debate around this and I think we must talk about it. You know, we are a very young democracy and the race issues are everywhere. But it is also how, the way, you bring it across. If you look at America, they have been doing comedy since the 50’s, so that are allowed to take that step away from race and speak about why a chair is funny. The weird thing is when you speak about race in S.A, that’s where you get your biggest laughs. But it’s more of a cultural thing.

I interjected here and agreed wholly with him. I think we can’t avoid yet, and are still too ‘young’ to stray away from race issues completely because there is still so much to talk about.

Dalin continued and said that the reason why he speaks about it is because it affects him directly as coloured man in South Africa.There are positives and negatives to it, he says and he wants to talk about it . He says. “If you don’t talk about it, how do people get to understand you as a person? Very idealistic. So many people can resonate with that. If you look at the characters Marc Lottering plays, I know people like that. We need to drift away from boxing people into categories according to their skin colour. Maybe we will have that in 80 years. Maybe 2101. Your culture is not constant, it is fluid, it’s always changing.  That’s the mistake we make in South Africa when we say Black culture, White culture, Coloured culture. No man, that’s going with a narrow mindset of race. Black people do this, white people do that. No man, it’s culture. Everyone is different, everyone’s experiences are different. ”

Yvette: This just got very deep.

Dalin: It’s your fault, I’m a very philosophical oke (guy).

Yvette: I’m just studying Information Systems hey. 🙂

Dalin: You should’ve popped in at humanities during your undergrad, really. LOL.

Dalin supporting Kurt Schoonraad

Yvette: What has been you greatest achievement to date?

Dalin: 11 July 2011 I was lucky enough to perform at 2 shows at the Vodacom Funny festival at the Baxter theatre, in Cape Town.

He explained how he got the gig (through some exposure through working with Stuart Taylor and some other organizes), and just how exhilarated he was when he was told he was afforded the opportunity to perform.  He goes on to explain that he had such a great time on stage and those 7minutes were just not enough. Even as he describes the experience of being on that stage at Baxter, I could see him light up and I was not able to hide my smile either. “I killed it, he says”. Dalin had a vision, a goal, to be on Baxter’s stage- and he did. He shares his goals with his dad and this was one of them. I would be stoked too!

Yvette: Do you see yourself being one of those veteran comedians like the guys you worked with? Or do you want to branch off into other things?

Dalin: Look, you have to have goals and in the next 5 years I am 27, I’d like to be one of the established new acts in South Africa. If not new, then middle (Yvette: middle class?). Yes, somewhere between 3rd and 2nd class. Eventually I would like to be one of the groundbreaking comedians in South Africa. There is a new generation of comics coming through now.

He explains that comics like Loyiso Gola, Kurt Schoonraad and David Kau them are the first generation comics that came, post Apartheid. So the second generation of comics are emerging slowly but surely. He reminds me that those guys are there to stay, but they are paving the way for the new comedians to step and explore, due to the other things they get involved in.  For example comics making movies and acting etc.

Ultimately, he says, he does want to have a production company. He wants to write sitcoms and movies. 🙂

Yvette: Do you have a girlfriend? And do you have groupies?

Dalin: No, I’m single. I have been getting that question a lot lately. I’m single, and by choice. I’m very, very fussy. Going into relationships, you need to understand one another. Then, especially in comedy, you need the girl to be secure. Not that I’m trying to be wrong when I say this, but you mix with a lot of females at the shows and stuff. But ya, no girlfriend for now. I always say she is at the ‘lost and found’.

I highlighted that I’m sure his schedule would not allow for this anyway…

And he says, ‘no groupies’.

Yvette: Where and when can we catch you?

Dalin: At present, as Jammie stairs, at 11:25am, with Yvette Adams. You can follow me on twitter: @dalinoliver (he now has 90 followers) and then on FB, my page: ‘Dalin Oliver: The Chameleon’: https://www.facebook.com/thechameleon1 . Next year .. I got some big plans, but I keep a lot to myself, because people think I am weird.

You can catch Dalin this Monday, 21st November in town at Ragazzi Lounge (Nik Rabinowitz will be there btw). Check the event details here: https://www.facebook.com/events/298639883493824/

And then ALSO, he is in the finals of the Comedy Thursdays hosted by Chilli Bar. See Pic below:

See, he is in the finals!

1st December. Don’t forget. Stiek uit (Show up, turn up at the event). LIKE the page, and get more info as to where Chilli Bar is etc: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Chilli-Bar-Comedy-Thursdays/148417625231447?sk=wall.

He juggles cricket (especially now that it is cricket season) between gigs, but yeah it’s tough being awesome hey. All his gig info is put on his FB page, so stalk him, he doesn’t mind.

During the interview we touched on how the first generation comics are doing great things and creating credibility around the art form that is comedy. It really is an art. Don’t be fooled, you can’t just go on stage and crack jokes. As Dalin says, “No bra, who do you think you are?”.  LOL. That would result in an epic fail.  We also spoke about movies like SKEEM (Kurt Schoonraad is in here) and MATERIAL (by Riaad Moosa) where these bold new moves by comedians, sort of set the bar higher for the newer comics to aim towards.

It’s really exciting !

Stuart Taylor, and Dalin…….. cough.

No lies, Dalin uses his ‘awkwardly good-looking face’ to his advantage. He is passionate about life and achieving the goals he has for himself. He sets a great example for our youth to follow. Well, that’s in my opinion anyway. We need go-getters like him who are hungry to rise up to challenges, live their dreams and of course face reality with the right kind of attitude. As Dalin’s plan for next year is to do his Teacher’s diploma, I can see him giving back to the communities in many ways. Although I asked him in the interview about whether or not give does community work, I already had my answer. To me, Dalin is an example of how the community is at work. Positive energy ploughing towards adding smiles, but provoking one’s thought as well. Bonus, he wants to teach? Seriously.

He is that guy.

Focused. Dalin is one of the most genuine people I have met and I sat laughing, yet in total admiration. A young man, destined for greatness and has achieved great success almost ‘over night’, yet he is so humble.

There you have it… In brief.

I think I should be on radio or something (hint hint, nudge nudge)- this was indeed the most challenging task ever. Transcribing the audio from my phone without losing a laugh was difficult. Geez.

Disclaimer: Many LOL’s had to be excluded due to, well, due to the fact that it would have not looked good at all…..

But yeah, this is a learning curve for me. Next time: YOUTUBE.

Dalin: The Chameleon

In closing, words from Dalin:

“You don’t pirate SA comedy! Do you here me?”, and his famous tagline “Stay focused”

With that said, I would like say thanks Dalin. Stay Real.

Miss Y

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