I’m sure many who read the title of this post paused for a second (or three) and either changed your perception of me or was jolted into a state of disbelief. So I’m not HIV positive. So what if I was? I don’t get the fuss. Okay, I understand the epidemic, yes, but I don’t quite our society remains stuck on stigma and stigmas of all sorts for that matter.
We are fixated with stigmas. We are fixated with all stigmas related to sex, pre-marital, outside marriage, ag just sex in general. You’d think we would grow more conscious about the negative effects of stigmas, not only as a nation but as global citizens, actually as human beings.
I would like to officially state that human beings have sex. It may seem p-r-e-t-t-y obvious to some people, but many people are shocked to hear this. Ok, let me repeat this. Human beings have sex. Let us move on- and delve on issues that would actually have an impact on the lives and ‘going concern’ of the human race.
Firstly, sex (and sometimes not the way we do it) is not a bad thing at all. It’s natural (All the old people are creeped out right now-just check). Let’s look at the problems with the bad side of sex. Now THERE’S a topic worth discussing. Believe you me, a topic too big for me to handle on my lonesome.
I’ll touch on 2 issues in this post i.e underage sex and teen pregnancy and HIV/ AIDS.
Underage sex is bad. Ok, got that out of my system. Now that the emotional side is out I can say that reality and statistics available (and evidence of teenage pregnancies) clearly depict that young people and children are sexually active. Why? Where do they even get the idea to insert things into places they should not even be wondering about. Being inquisitive and experimentation is natural too, but there is a line to draw. Who draws the line though? And how thick is that line? Is that line currently in place in today’s society (considering the images and ideas portayed by the media about sex)? I think it’s important that we realize, as a concerned society, that maybe, just maybe, our focus of trying to stop Nicki Minaj and whoever else shake their ‘groove thing’, is only half the problem. The other sits with what we instill in the children through what we preach (and what we practice, ahem). We need to open some dialogue and talk about sex with the youth and not just the consequences. For goodness sake, we all know “a mommy and a daddy make a baby”. We need to talk about the feelings, the heat, “die warmte”, “die lekkerte”, the lies, the pain, the emotional roller coaster, the truth. Dammit. The truth. If you tell the truth, it will become more sacred. If something is understood and believed to be sacred- it is more likely to be respected.
So, like after you have sex, one bietjie (small bit of) sperm fertilizes an egg and then. BOOM. Sit Down. You’re (young) pregnant. Evidence that you were sexually active is very present. And in many cultures, it’s errrr, LATE for you. You dirty, you made a mistake, you had sex, but you give life. Go figure.
I think it just got controversial up in here.
Second blabber is about HIV/AIDS. Another serious topic- it’s safe to say it affects many of us personally. In our families, friends, or even you. It’s invisible- until it hits you. No one knows, but you, and suddenly, you don’t feel the same. Imagine living with a label. Oh, wait, we love doing that, labelling others. I forgot. Now, imagine living with this ‘dirty’ label which society gave you- and ever so gently tells you you’re going to die. I am just imagining- but I know that it’s nothing close to reality. How do you expect that person to seek support or help, just to deal with this ‘label’ and real fear to come out if we already sentence them to a death, social exclusion? Maybe it’s because I live with stigmas myself that I can understand the frustration.
I think to myself, “Hey he’s just HIV +, he is still the same person. She is lesbian, she is still awesome. She is pregnant. She still knows how to shake her biscuit on the dance floor (dance).” I don’t see the fuss. I don’t.
Call me dirty. Glad the title got your attention. Goes to show hey.